Should Christians Be Sad When a Fellow Believer Dies and Goes to Heaven?
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If we are citizens of heaven, awaiting a future of glory and an eternal inheritance—someday to be forever in the presence of Christ and again among our earthly brothers and sisters—then why should we grieve over our brethren who die and go on to heaven before us?
Isn’t it a sign of earthly-mindedness to grieve over such things? Isn’t it unspiritual to be sad when a fellow Christian dies? If so, wouldn’t it then be even more unspiritual for a Christian to rejoice when a fellow brother or sister is healed and allowed to live longer here on earth? The answer to all these questions is a resounding “no.”
“To live is Christ and to die is gain” (Phil. 1:21).
The apostle Paul proclaimed, “To live is Christ and to die is gain” (Phil. 1:21). He reminded the Philippians that they were citizens of heaven, someday to receive new bodies like the body of their Lord (Phil. 3:20). Yet, Paul was also grateful to God for sparing his brother and fellow worker Epaphroditus from death. Philippians 2:25-27 explains:
I have thought it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus by brother and fellow worker and fellow soldier, and your messenger and minister to my need for he has been longing for you all and has been distressed because you heard that he was ill. Indeed he was ill, near to death. But God had mercy on him, and not only on him but on me also, lest I should have sorrow upon sorrow.
It is merciful of God to spare our brothers and sisters in Christ.
Notice two things from these verses in Philippians. First, Paul considered it merciful of God to spare Epaphroditus. We might ask Paul, “Why is that a mercy? Don’t you believe that it would be better for Epaphroditus to go to heaven?” Paul would certainly answer, “Oh yes, to depart and be with Christ is far better” (Phil. 1:23). But don’t forget that he would also say, “But to remain here means fruitful labor (Phil. 1:22) and fruitful relationships (Rom. 1:12).”
Paul’s longing for heaven and his desire for his people to aspire for heaven was not some morbid fascination with death that ignores the pain of losing loved ones and chides prayers for healing. Paul’s love for Christ flowed out into sincere love for people.
Our sorrow over the death of a fellow believer is a grief with hope.
This brings us to the second observation: Paul would have been sorrowful if Epaphroditus would have died.
Christians should grieve over the death of a fellow brother or sister in Christ. It is good and right to feel the weight of sorrow when our beloved fellow Christians are taken home. It is not a grief without hope (1 Thess. 4:13), but it is a grief, even a “sorrow upon sorrow.”
May we not fool ourselves into thinking we are more spiritual than the apostle Paul by stifling our grief over the sickness and death of our fellow brothers and sisters. May we not be ashamed when our hearts are broken over such loss. Grief is good. Grief is godly.
This article is adapted from "Is it Godly to Grieve Over the Death of Fellow Saints? Thoughts on Philippians 2:27" at fromthestudy.com and was originally published at Beautiful Christian Life on February 17, 2020.
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Notes:
[1] William Barclay, The Gospel of Matthew (Louisville: Westminster John Knox Press, 2001), 323.
